In his article, Pyrrhic Victoria: Why Men Are Becoming More Like Women, Marcus Buckingham explains that an increasing number of women working outside the home has created a society in which characteristics that are more closely associated with women have began to dominate the landscape. He explains, “men’s behaviors are becoming more and more like women’s.” He claims that the gender war is over, women have won and to the “victor goes the spoils.” As such we are beginning to see an increasing number of women in the arena previously limited to men, the work force, and men enter the arena previously controlled by women, the home. In Buckingham’s eyes, men have lost and now they are forced to change aspects of themselves, their masculinity, to adhere to a more feminine standard of living.

What stands out of this article to me is how strongly Buckingham wants to cling to traditional concepts of male and female identity. Men are characterized by their masculinity, by their work outside of the home, by these distinctively male behaviors. He creates this dichotomy between men and women, trapping them in stereotypes.

What purpose does that serve? Why is there no middle ground?

In moving towards a more equal distribution of responsibilities between women and men, are there winners and losers? Through this view, men and women are in conflict over the control of social norms, social reality is fragmented with work and home being seen as opposing spheres.